It’s Okay Not To Be Okay: What You Can Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right

Our society is progressing, and we can see it in so many aspects of our daily lives. Our attitude and perception about things we used to shy away from has changed. One of the many things we can have more open about is our mental health.

Keeping the conversations around our mental health is important because the 2021 statistics by SingleCare show that 59% of the people in the U.S.A. said their mental health is affected by the pandemic.

Although the stigma around mental health still exists, it’s time to dismantle it. There are days when you can’t do anything right or feel like nothing is fun anymore. When you feel that, you should know that it’s not just you.

Do you ever feel like your workplace is the one making you feel this way? Check out A Guide To Giving Killer Responses To Microaggressions In The Workplace.

Why Do You Feel The Way You Do? And How Can You Deal With It?

I’m not a mental health expert, but there are several reasons you feel the way you feel. Now and then, you may find ourselves asking “Why can’t I do anything right?”. This question isn’t a reason to be concerned yet. But if it’s recurring, please know that you are not alone. This is because 1 in 5 adults in the U.S.A. experience some kind of mental illness based on data by the National Alliance on Mental Illness.

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay: What You Can Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right
Whenever you feel like you’re not doing anything right, remember it’s not just you. Source:

It’s kind of comforting that you’re not the only one feeling helpless when you can’t do anything right. After all, there are so many things happening right now that it can be mentally tiring. When you turn the TV on, read the news, and/or go on your social media, everything is overwhelming and it might take its toll on you. These things might affect you and your mental health, and if they do, you should remember this famous saying: “It’s okay not to be okay.”

There are several settings in our lives when we have felt nothing is fun anymore. Here are some of those settings and the possible reasons why you find yourself asking “Why can’t I do anything right?”

  1. At work – it can get overwhelming when you have too much work on your hand, and it’s natural to feel stressed out. The deadlines that you have to meet can also add to this stress. That’s why it’s important to take a break. So, when you can still take some time off work, take it. It should be your right to spend a day doing something that you think would make you feel better. Don’t feel guilty about it because a four-day workweek is even being hailed as the new normal to help employees deal with being burned out at work. 

If you feel like losing your work-life balance and are on the verge of breaking down, maybe it’s time to move on. Do you need help to write a resignation letter to leave that work that’s no longer making you happy?

  1. In your relationship – being with your significant other can sometimes feel stressful, too. It’s completely natural because you both go through different situations that stress you out. These things can manifest themselves in your relationship in various forms like arguments or misunderstandings. If that happens, it might be a good idea to take it slow and take a quick trip out of the city to recharge yourselves and have some time to talk. If that’s not possible, even a romantic dinner or a “staycation” might help.
  2. In your home – it’s only natural to occasionally not feel at your best when you’re at home with your family. If it’s something in your control, a family night to watch some feel-good movies or play some board games while munching on your favorite snack might help.
  3. In your social circle – it’s kind of difficult when your friends are the ones that are putting you in a stressful situation. Especially if you consider them your support group. If that happens, take a step back from hanging out with them and find joy in solitude. Sometimes being alone can help you clear your mind.
Why Do You Feel The Way You Do? And How Can You Deal With It?

It’s okay not to be okay, but you can help yourself be okay. Source:

Other factors could make you feel stressed about the same settings in your lives. There are also other aspects of your lives that you may find you’ve had too much of. In general, acknowledging that you’re not feeling okay helps a lot. When you find yourself asking, “Why can’t I do anything right?” trying reframing the question with “What have I done right?” You can even make a list of things that you’re grateful for to cheer yourself up.

Even doing little things like taking a shower, cleaning your room, or rewatching a TV series you like can help. Having a to-do list and taking the time to accomplish them will make you feel better after a mentally tiring day. After that, you can even order your favorite comfort food. Research shows that rewarding yourself can reset your brain and boost your self-esteem.

A Little Inspiration

According to several studies, serotonin and dopamine are chemicals in our brains that regulate our bodily functions, which affect our mental health. And some of the things we listed above can help in increasing these brain chemicals. But, if you feel like you need more than doing these things, seeking professional help is something you can do.  

You shouldn’t feel ashamed if this is an option to feel better. There are countless success stories of people who sought professional help and were able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, it’s okay not to be okay, but you should also help yourself until things get better.

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Leonard hails from the Philippines and works as a freelancer, author, poet, and visual artist. He discovered his passion for writing and painting at an early age, leading him to pursue a degree in Mass Communications. He worked at a few places after college before landing what he thought was a "life-changing" writing career. He was also the lead singer and songwriter for a band. His career as an English teacher, poet, and visual artist took him to Hanoi, Vietnam, in 2018. You can see more of his work on Instagram at @anumalei.